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WHY TODAY'S KIDS (AND PARENTS!) ARE MORE ANXIOUS THAN EVER...AND HOW TO FIX IT

 Modern Mommy Doc


PUBLICATION DATE:

February 6, 2025

WHY TODAY'S KIDS (AND PARENTS!) ARE MORE ANXIOUS THAN EVER...AND HOW TO FIX IT

 Modern Mommy Doc

CATEGORY: Your Working Mom Life

About the Episode:


In this episode of The Modern Mommy Doc Podcast, Dr. Whitney Casares dives into the growing epidemic of anxiety in both parents and children. Why are we all so anxious? And more importantly—what can we do about it? She explores the major cultural and technological shifts that have contributed to rising anxiety levels, from social media and smartphone addiction to the decline of unstructured play and increased parental overprotection. Dr. Whitney also shares practical strategies for reducing anxiety in your family—including setting screen time limits, fostering independence, and advocating for policy changes. If you've ever felt overwhelmed by parenting in the digital age, this episode is for you.


Key Discussion Points:


1. Smartphones & Social Media Are Fueling Anxiety


  • The rise of social media has increased comparison, information overload, and constant stimulation, making parents and kids more anxious.


  • Sleep deprivation due to screen time can exacerbate anxiety in both children and adults.


  • The “attention economy” (constant notifications, infinite scrolling) makes it hard to focus, creating a sense of never feeling truly settled.


2. Kids Have Less Unstructured Play—And It’s Hurting Them


  • Free, unstructured play helps kids build resilience and problem-solving skills, but today’s kids have fewer opportunities for it.


  • A culture of over-scheduling and screen reliance means children are less able to handle boredom and self-regulate.


  • Play is how kids learn to cope with adversity—without it, they struggle more with frustration and independence.


3. Helicopter Parenting & Overprotection Are Making It Worse


  • GPS tracking, constant check-ins, and over-monitoring can undermine kids’ ability to take risks and build confidence.


  • While safety is important, finding a balance between protection and independence is crucial for kids’ mental health.


  • Kids need opportunities to explore, make mistakes, and navigate challenges on their own to develop self-trust.


Practical Steps to Reduce Anxiety in Your Family:


Limit Screen Time: Implement screen-free days (e.g., no screens Monday-Thursday, controlled screen time on weekends).


Choose Phones Wisely: Delay smartphone use as long as possible; consider Gabb phones or other limited devices instead of full-access smartphones.


Encourage Free Play: Give kids boredom-friendly environments where they can create, explore, and problem-solve independently.


Advocate for Policy Changes: Support local initiatives that limit smartphone use in schools and promote digital wellness.


Set Boundaries for Your Own Screen Use: Model healthy habits by limiting your own social media time and choosing trusted, evidence-based parenting resources.


Resources & References:


📖 The Anxious Generation by Jonathan Haidt – A must-read on the link between childhood rewiring and rising mental health issues.


📚 The Working Mom Blueprint by Dr. Whitney Casares – Strategies for setting boundaries, managing stress, and parenting with confidence.


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Gabb Wireless – A great alternative to smartphones for kids who need basic communication but no social media.


Join the Conversation:


💬 What strategies have worked in your home to manage screen time and reduce anxiety? Share your experiences with us!


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Subscribe to The Modern Mommy Doc Podcast for more episodes on parenting with confidence and clarity.


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