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THE DOCTOR IS IN: YOUR MOST PRESSING QUESTIONS ANSWERED

 Modern Mommy Doc


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September 29, 2020

THE DOCTOR IS IN: YOUR MOST PRESSING QUESTIONS ANSWERED

 Modern Mommy Doc

CATEGORY: FAQS + PARENTING RESOURCES

“Is this rash normal?”


“Which car seat should I buy?”


“Should I be worried that she only eats yogurt?”


As a pediatrician, I get asked a lot of questions each day. As an author and a speaker, I get asked even more questions, but those usually fall into a different category. A category that deals with working-mom guilt, co-parenting, and balancing life and motherhood.


It is this second group of questions that we all need more answers to, which is why I have just launched a new line of online parenting programs – self-paced “classes” designed to spark simple but transformative change in your life. And it is in honor of these programs that I have decided to devote this week’s blog to some of the questions I hear most often from the creative, exhausted, determined, and real Mamas I have the privilege of seeing every day.




Q: I feel like I’m pulled in so many directions all day long. How am I supposed to do it all?


A: You cannot try to do everything well if you want to do anything well. You’re a human, not a robot, Mama, and human beings have strengths, weaknesses, and a real need for sleep. (And, in my case, almond croissants.) Instead of focusing on “doing it all,” hone in on what you want and what you need. Focus your mental, emotional, and physical energy on those things first. Then create systems and boundaries around the rest of your to-do list.



Q: You talk a lot about mindset being most important when it comes to motherhood. What does that mean?


A: I know a lot of moms who can ABSOLUTELY KILL IT when it comes to juggling everything. They can bake a birthday cake, cart the kids to and from soccer practice all week, show up like a boss at work – you name it, they’re on it. In the end, though, there’s just one thing missing: joy. Instead of feeling content and satisfied at the end of each day, they feel exhausted. And most moms I know feel conflicted when they think about where to place their energy. By focusing on mindset, we can better navigate the push and pull of motherhood to find a more centered vision for our lives as moms.




Q: WHAT CAN I EXPECT FROM YOUR ONLINE PROGRAMS?

A: Our programs are designed to meet your needs in a way that’s accessible and digestible and fits your schedule. They’re chockful of evidence-based, expert information, but they’re also focused on solutions that will serve you in the long term. Each program is hosted by me and comes with an interactive manual so you can apply what you’ve learned to your own life and refer back to the information as often as you need to.


Q: What if I want more information or help after I complete a program?

A: Our programs should never be used as a substitute for in-person medical advice and are intended for educational purposes only. If you have an immediate health concern, you should seek help from your medical provider and/or your child’s pediatrician. If you want more Modern Mommy Doc-style support, however – there’s good news! We have four programs currently available, consulting sessions and, coming very soon, real-time masterclasses designed to help Mamas move from scattered to centered. And if you need quick answers now, tune in on Instagram when I field real questions in real time.

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