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PODCAST EPISODES | #81

YOU DON'T OWE ANYONE ANYTHING: GIVING YOURSELF PERMISSION TO CHOOSE WORK THAT MATTERS TO YOU WITH DR. TRACY ASAMOAH

 Modern Mommy Doc


PUBLICATION DATE:

January 6, 2022

YOU DON'T OWE ANYONE ANYTHING: GIVING YOURSELF PERMISSION TO CHOOSE WORK THAT MATTERS TO YOU WITH DR. TRACY ASAMOAH

 Modern Mommy Doc

CATEGORY: PODCAST EPISODES | #81


EPISODE TAKEAWAYS:


  • You can give yourself permission to choose work based on your skills, what brings you positive energy and the environments and career paths that fuel you.
  • External pressures, opinions of what you should do add to the engrained assumptions of what you can't do, rather than what's really possible.
  • How trained professionals are expected to push through despite burnout, and how to allow yourself to regroup and reset in order to handle issues and make better decisions.

Dr. Tracy Asamoah, M.D.


INSIDE THE EPISODE:

Dr. Tracy Asamoah, M.D., is a Physician Life Coach and Child and Adolescent Psychiatrist who is passionate about helping women physicians that may be feeling stuck, ask for and claim what they need.


In this conversation, both doctors get real about what it's like in high-performance jobs. Early on, after residency, Dr. Tracy had a feeling that her career path was not part of her "ideal life," and she decided to make a change. She became passionate about empowering other women to understand and make any changes needed changes in order to live a life that they love.


Tracy believes that you can show up as your best self, and how overextending yourself to endless bounds is not a sustainable part of that. Especially in physician jobs, caretaking jobs, and any high-stakes career environment, taking care of yourself is essential to your health and your career.


Dr. Whitney recalls a conversation that she and Tracy had previously, chatting about her Private Practice, where Tracy had said to her "You don't owe anybody anything, you are your own individual person, and you get to choose what works for you." Tracy explained that she had started coaching physician women, and later found that there were so many more women in other career categories that felt that this model was so valuable. She believes though, that an internal motivation is truly needed to sustain any career. She asks how can anyone show up in their full potential if they are working from only part of what they know of themselves? If you show up in your career with your internal motivation, your whole-hearted commitment, with all of your gifts and skills, and have the correct boundaries and expectations—that's where you'll thrive.


Tracy goes on to explain how to harness your gifts. Ask yourself these questions:

  • Were there any times in my life where my skills were utilized and I felt joyful?
  • What was I doing?
  • Are there many of these moments?
  • What can I piece together here in terms of what motivates us and what skill sets empower me?
  • Where are the best places to use these skills and cultivate joy?


In helping professional women down a pathway in finding their ultimate vision of how they want to live their lives, Dr. Tracy also helps work through the barriers they might encounter when making these big career changes. She helps work through financial beliefs, beliefs engrained someone's upbringing, and working through uncomfortable situations in order to move into the life they desire.


As a personal experience, you are the only one who can find and build the steps to your unique path. The answer that Dr. Tracy gives to her clients is: "What do you want to do?" She believes that anyone could say what they think about someone else's journey, however she recommends taking the path of least resistance in order to continue each day and continue setting realistic goals in order to make progress.




Goal: Run a 5k

Step 1: Start Running. Buy a sports bra.

— Dr. Tracy Asamoah



Connect with Dr. Tracy Asamoah:

INSTAGRAM | LINKEDIN | WEB




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