This year’s winner burned the candle at both ends. She got up at 5am every day so she could have peace and quiet to herself, made her kids’ breakfasts and lunches each morning, got them to school on time, and worked at her job harder than anyone else – so that there would be no question of her abilities and loyalty when she left to pick her kids up from school every day.

She never quite believed that everyone saw how hard she worked, so after she did homework with her kids, got dinner on the table, got them to practice, and did bath and bedtime, she took a few hours before she went to sleep to put in some more time for her job. She had to make sure that all those times she had to duck out a few minutes early for a kid’s appointment or to watch their play at school were not going to keep her from moving up the corporate ladder. 

As if that all wasn’t enough, this year’s winner was exhausted from the time she woke up to the time she went to bed. She never put any priority on taking care of herself – always making sure everyone else had everything they needed. She’s short with her kids when they ask to spend time with her and she’s so run down, that she definitely doesn’t have time or energy to have a real connection with her husband. What an example for all of us.

She is the epitome of what a Burned Out Mom should be. This year’s winner of the World’s Best Burned Out Mom iiiiiiiissss…

You.

Me.

It’s all of us.

We know there’s no ceremony like this (and if there was, we’d still be getting the kids ready, running around with half our hair curled, while trying to get our daughter to PLEASE just put on the dress), but yet most of us moms are acting day in and day out as if we were in the running to get this very prestigious award.

I have to take a second to remind you that your kids aren’t better off the more burned out you are. Your house isn’t better off. Your marriage isn’t better off.



Maybe I’m not burned out. Maybe I’m just tired. Kids are tiring.

True.

But there’s a difference.

And before you can take steps to correct it, you have to identify it as a problem.

A burned out mama:

-feels short tempered with her kids or partner a LOT.

-feels emotionally depleted like she’s got nothing left to give.

-feels guilty about her thoughts around her family and how much she does/doesn’t do and their reactions towards her

-Has EXTREME mental fatigue or physical exhaustion. Sun up to sun down.

-Feels disconnected from those around her, including her family

-Never feels like she’s enough

There’s lots of ways to combat burnout, including really being open with your partner and those in your village, asking for help, and learning to delegate. But I think the biggest one that moves the needle for moms is finding pockets of time that are just for her.

I’m not saying you need to find a quiet hour in your home every day. That’s simply not possible. But can you stay in the bathroom for 5 extra minutes to splash some water on your face? Can you take the first 10 minutes after your kids go to bed to stretch and get in some movement? Can you sit in your car for a few minutes before you head into work, put on your favorite dance jam, and just let go?

These extra minutes don’t solve it all. Absolutely not. But they set your day on a course that lets you have more margin. And THAT will take you from burned out to a life you love.

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