About the Episode:
In this episode of the Modern Mommy Doc podcast, Dr. Whitney Casares sits down with pediatric psychologist, author, and parent coach Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart to talk about how to actually love the teen you have—not the one you imagined, hoped for, or thought you’d get. Together, they unpack how to stay connected to your teen through the chaos, what to do when your kid calls you “bruh,” and how to manage your own emotions when your child’s behavior pushes every button you have.
Dr. Lockhart shares stories from her own life, including her rocky teen years and her now-healed relationship with her mom, to remind parents that rebellion often hides pain—and that curiosity, compassion, and boundaries can coexist. She and Dr. Whitney also explore what individuation really means (and why it’s actually a good thing), how to support neurodivergent teens, and how parents can care for themselves so they can show up grounded, not reactive. She also talks about her new book, Love the Teen You Have.
Key Takeaways:
- Love the teen in front of you. Don’t parent an imaginary kid. See your child as they are today, not as who you hoped they’d be.
- Get curious before reacting. When your teen snaps or shuts down, ask “What’s really going on?” instead of taking it personally.
- You and your teen are both doing your best. Give grace—to them and to yourself.
- Connection trumps control. Your teen still needs your presence, even when they act like they don’t.
- Regulation starts with you. A calm parent helps a dysregulated teen feel safe enough to open up.
- Screen time isn’t all bad—but boundaries matter. Keep tech out of bedrooms and model intentional use.
- It’s okay to grieve change. Losing your “little kid” is real—but what comes next can be even more meaningful.
About Our Guest:
Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart is a psychologist, parent coach, and author of Love the Teen You Have (Releasing October 28, 2025). She’s the founder of A New Day Pediatric Psychology, where she supports families navigating the teen years with evidence-based strategies and deep compassion. A frequent media contributor and speaker, Dr. Lockhart helps parents understand the “why” behind their kids’ behaviors—and gives them the tools to respond with empathy and structure.
Connect with Dr. Lockhart:
Website: drannlouiselockhart.com
Instagram:
@dr.annlouise.lockhart
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